Day 251: my first step

[ManagingAnxietyLvl1] 15mins
"If you tend to be anxious in everyday life, try to simply note it and return to the moment."
Andy told me to distinguish thinking and feeling. I found that I was thinking the most of the time and didn’t have the feeling moment often. Or maybe that’s what I thought. Maybe I have miscategorized my feelings into thinking. As the event of talking to her, I thought I was thinking about the ways she behaved and what I plan to do, but in fact, I was feeling some anger toward her. I was feeling that she was being unfair. That was the feeling. Maybe I have been doing that, categorizing my feeling into me thinking about the event and thinking about what I should be doing. Maybe planning is part of “thinking”, but I should recognize my feeling toward the events as that, feelings. 
So that means I finally am taking the first step toward my goal. After 251 days, I finally am recognizing my feelings and dealing with it. It’s later than I have thought, but again, I didn’t know those are feelings. I am happy to have made this step. It doesn’t matter when what matters is that now I know. I am happy that I am starting to get on this journey that I thought I have been taking. More ahead. 

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